Frequently Asked Questions About Therapy

Frequently Asked Questions

Answers to the most frequent questions about therapy
  • How do I know I need therapy ?
    A very common question. What are the "normal", usual problems in life, and which ones are considered abnormal? Well, as we all know, life can be quite unpredictable, full of ups and downs, positive or negative life events. However, some people seem more fragile than others, meaning the same events may have a different impact on different people. For example, in the face of a loss of a partner, or a job some people may recover more quickly, while some may struggle for months, even years. Every emotional problem or adverse life event may shake your normal functioning for a certain time. For example, you may experience problems with sleep, anxiety, emotional dysregulation, chronic pain, headaches, or loss of interest in life. However, if you notice that this lasts for too long or you had lost control over it, it is time to seek help. While these negative symptoms are all usual, if they start to impact your everyday life, performance at work, or relationship with your social environment (friends, partner, family) it is time to seek help from a professional equipped with tools and understanding that go beyond of supportive conversations with your friends, loved ones or members of your family. Sometimes, emotional and psychological problems are not just a reaction to some problematic events in your life but it is something more pervasive that you have been struggling with for as long as you can remember. However, because they have been there for so long you might have lost sight of them, or even worse you may get used to their damaging consequences to your emotional and psychological health. Furthermore, at one point, negative factors in your life or some adverse life event may trigger sudden awareness of these problems. These things are usually of a very sensitive nature and you might not be ready to share them with anyone else but a trusted therapist who can understand and have tools to help you and with whom you can work together to bring a solution. In short therapy sessions can help you to gain more clarity on an issue, change old patterns, get to know yourself and your unconscious emotions and defenses, untangle complex personal issues, or embark on a journey of self-development. You may seek therapy as a result of a crisis, or you may be encouraged to seek therapy by family members, friends, or colleagues. Whatever it is, your own will to actively work and develop yourself is of utmost importance and is a positive predictor of success in therapy.  
  • What happens in a ISTDP therapy session?
    I am providing a safe environment in which to explore your issues. I am highly trained in listening and reflecting of your conscious and unconscious thoughts, feelings and defense mechanisms. Careful assessment and monitoring of your anxiety levels ensure we always work at an optimal level without any possibility of putting you out of emotional balance. You are free to discuss whatever you wish, from everyday events, dilemmas, feelings, and thoughts, to regrets, aspirations, memories, and dreams. We do not go anywhere where you do not want or you are not ready to go. ISTDP therapy is structured, active, and consists of equal efforts from you and me to understand your emotions and actions. I am here to provide focus so we do not engage in empty conversations thus shortening the length of the therapy needed to overcome your problems. That saves you time and money and brings you closer to results you wish to achieve.  
  • Can I speak to you in between of my appointments?
    Therapists have sessions with clients during the day and simply can't make time to talk to every potential client out of appointment time. Psychodynamic nature of psychotherapeutic work orders boundaries between clients and therapists to maximize the results. Your consultation appointment is the time to ask any questions you might have. In case of emergency, you may contact your local emergency services.
  • Will my therapy sessions be confidential?
    Yes, my therapy sessions are fully confidential. I am bound by the British Psychological Society's ethical code of conduct to keep what you share with me as private and confidential. Note that registered therapists are obliged to have a supervisor overseeing their work, to ensure they are maintaining a high level of assistance to their clients. While I might discuss the generalities of your case with my supervisor, I would not divulge your identity, and the supervisor would also be under oath to protect the privacy of any information that is shared.
  • What kinds of people seek therapy?
    There is no barrier to whom therapy can assist. I welcome you, regardless of your culture, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or employment group.
  • Can I change my appointment slot ?
    Regular, consistent work is essential to see the benefits of therapy. I use an online calendar in which you can book the date and time of your therapy session. Please find the link in the main menu of this website. Upon reservation, you will receive a confirmation which will also contain the link for eventual change of booking. You can change your booking 24h or more before your original booking without any cost.
  • Why it is best to attend sessions weekly?
    The standard format of weekly sessions helps you make gradual and steady progress which leads to seeing real results. In some cases, we can agree to two or more sessions per week, if we both deem it beneficial and I have the availability. This way of work ensures continuity and effective results.
  • Can I do all of my sessions over the internet?
    Yes, you can. I work with clients over secure video platforms like Skype or Zoom. If you would like to attend in person I offer an in-person visit or we can discuss the blended approach. Research has shown effectiveness of psychotherapy over video call session at 90 percent compared to in-person session.